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I liked the guy, but I could tell the feeling was not mutual.
He was my boss and we were on good terms. We saw each other mostly in passing, often greeting each other with witty banter. Occasionally we would strike up a conversation centered on random interests: sports, movies, music or past work experiences. On the surface an observer might have believed we were friends.
We weren’t and I knew it. How? He never asked me any questions about my personal life.
Everyone knows when someone is interested in them or not because they ask questions, whether about themselves, their passions, their interests, and so on. The questions are not forced or perfunctory, but represent a genuine interest and passion in knowing the person beyond their name tag or resume. When you don’t ask these questions about someone else, it sends a clear signal: I don’t care about you.
Why don’t your employees care about you or their job? It may be as simple as a failure to ask the right questions.Read More »